Parenting tips: Self-Image, Celebrity Comparison and the Tween Mind

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We all want our children to have high self-esteem. In fact, high self-esteem largely influences future mental and emotional health, sense of worth, and social satisfaction. During the tween years, your child searches for identity through the opinions of her peers. Simple praise can make her self-esteem skyrocket, while one criticism can sometimes be devastating. Some parenting tips from Jiminy.

We all want our children to have high self-esteem. In fact, high self-esteem largely influences future mental and emotional health, sense of worth, and social satisfaction. During the tween years, your child searches for identity through the opinions of her peers. Simple praise can make her self-esteem skyrocket, while one criticism can sometimes be devastating.

With a growing amount of technology use, especially among tweens, many aspects of social media tie into this search of self-esteem through beauty.  Many tweens post “selfies” or other images on their social media sites like Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook. They look for approval in the amount of likes they receive, or comments that say they are good looking.  (This, by the way, creates a large platform for cyberbullies to make negative comments about those pictures.)

Parenting tips – dealing with the effects of social media

On top of all this, many celebrities like the Kardashians have social media accounts where they post pictures of themselves, often photoshopped and edited to look both more glamorous and more natural, all as part of their luxurious lifestyle, fame and fortune.  Oftentimes, these accounts create the facade that their lives are perfect. Tweens frequently look up to celebrities. They see thousands of likes and comments on their pictures, and often compare their appearance to theirs. This is an issue, because the celebrity lifestyle is completely unrealistic.  However, many tweens view it as something to be compared to, often causing them to become even more self-. They can never achieve the looks or lifestyle of the celebrities they see.

How can we help them realize the fakeness of celebrity pictures?

As a parent, we can easily miss the warning signs of a lowered self-image.  However, we can be more attune to changes in our child’s behavior and confidence.  It is important to be constantly reinforcing your child in who they are, their worth and value, and how much you love them.  Also, reminding them that social media is a place where people try to put the best aspects of their life on display, hiding the not-so-great aspects is a helpful tip.  It is easy, especially for tweens, to forget that not only they are not the only ones with imperfect bodies and lives, there are virtually no perfect people out there.

The most important thing for a parent to do in a growing technologically focused age is be aware of your child’s habits.  Stay in the know of what is going on in their life and what they are doing on social media. That way, you can protect them from online danger and encourage them of their true value.

Jiminy is a parental awareness app, that helps parents understand their children’s online activity and keep them safe. Learn more and try Jiminy FOR FREE, by clicking here.

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